How to Deal with a Family Law Lawyer Who Stops Communicating

When you are in the middle of a family law case, it is essential to make sure that you keep open communication with your family law lawyer. If your lawyer stops communicating with you, then there are a few things that might be happening. Sometimes lawyers need more information from their clients before moving forward. There might be a conflict of interest that has risen, you and your lawyer might be having an antagonistic working relationship, or perhaps they have fallen ill. Regardless of the reason for their silence, there are some steps that you should take if this happens to you so that the situation doesn’t get out of hand and end up costing you more money.

Try the Easiest Route First: Ask

First, you should try to find out why the lawyer stopped communicating with you. You might be able to resolve the issue by simply asking their offices for the reasons behind the silence.

  • Perhaps the lawyer wants to be aware of your budget. Each time they communicate with you, they must charge you. Answering off-topic questions eat away at this budget.
  • Perhaps there has been no new movement on your case.
  • Maybe their offices are waiting on updated or accurate paperwork from the opposing parties.

In rare cases, where the working relationship between you and the lawyer has considerably broken down, the lawyer may have just decided not to speak to you unless it has to do with your case, and even then, only in writing. You want to do everything in your power to avoid a breakdown to this degree.

Resolve Any Unfinished Business at Your End

If your lawyer needs something from you and you haven’t provided it, then plan to get the information to their offices as soon as possible. Missing information could include filling out forms, replying to questions in emails, or not paying your bill. Email the offices and ask them to provide you with a list of items they are waiting on from you, including a list of questions you might still need to answer in case you cannot locate them on your end.

Find a New Lawyer for Your Case

If the lawyer doesn’t want to work on your case anymore, you might need a new lawyer. Finding a new lawyer will often incur additional costs and stress. You’ll have to spend time finding a new one that is available in your area of law and fast. You don’t want this to happen at extremely crucial periods in the case. If you feel this might be true in your situation, you might need to consult with a new attorney now rather than wait.

Consider Filing a Complaint

In extreme cases, a lawyer could be providing you with terrible service. In those situations, ensure the lawyer’s actions follow ethical standards of conduct. You can research your state’s bar association help pages to see if their behaviors match and when you’ll need to file a complaint.


To create a successful and lasting resolution to any family law case, communication is key. If you feel like your lawyer has stopped communicating with you, do your best to learn why and take whatever steps are necessary to resolve it. If it goes unresolved, you may need to find a new lawyer or file a complaint with the appropriate agencies.


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