How to Co-parent During a Crisis

We all go through times in our lives that are more stressful or difficult than others. A crisis might come about due to unemployment, medical issues, or – say – a worldwide pandemic. The COVID-19 pandemic certainly presented many challenges for many families, and it brought to light the importance of health co-parenting in times like these. It also showed that health co-parenting during a crisis is not nearly as simple as it might seem.

It is important to know how to stay calm and co-parent during a crisis, as well as to identify when you might require changes to your child custody arrangements. Speak with a Forsyth County child custody lawyer today.

Potential Effects of Stress on Children

Children are more vulnerable than adults in many ways, and stress can take a physical and emotional toll. As if a crisis is not difficult enough, having parents who cannot cooperate in a healthy manner can cause many problems for children, including:

  • Anxiety and excessive worrying
  • Depression and sadness
  • Acting out
  • Irritability and anger
  • Trouble concentrating
  • Pain and headaches
  • Decline in performance at school
  • Loss of interest in friends or activities
  • Bedwetting
  • Not eating or overeating
  • Nightmares
  • Other regressions


Because stress can be so difficult on a child, it is important for parents to set an example and create a feeling of stability in the most challenging times.

Focusing on Healthy Co-Parenting

When the world becomes chaotic, it is up to parents to provide stability and support for children. Even though you are stressed yourselves, it is critical to focus on effective communication and co-parenting in these times. Stay flexible and open-minded, always realizing that the other parent is in the midst of a crisis, as well.

Now is the time to have a united front and set your differences aside. Keep watch for signs of stress in your child, and be sure to discuss these with their other parent. One or more of the following might be necessary:

  • Avoid discussing your own stress – especially regarding the other parent – when your child can hear you.
  • Limit your child’s access to the news and other discussions of the crisis, as this can be too much negativity for them to hear.
  • Seek help from a child or family psychologist if your child continues to struggle.

A crisis like the pandemic can require children to adapt their lives quickly, and this is difficult enough without the added stress of parents who cannot get along.

Let a Forsyth County Child Custody Attorney Help

In some situations, a crisis might require you to modify your custody arrangements, and if this happens, you should reach out to our Forsyth County child custody lawyers at Banks, Stubbs & McFarland LLP. We can review your situation and provide advice regarding the best course of action to ensure your custody arrangement works for everyone involved.

If you have any concerns about custody or any family law matter, contact us online or call (770) 887-1209 for a consultation.

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